Ah 2016, New Year, New Me, Am I Right?
Every year we all make new year’s resolutions that ultimately never get resolved. We purchase gym memberships and have sudden health kicks that stop kicking after two weeks and 10 chicken wings later. Trust me, I was supposed to lose those ten pounds, three years ago.
This year I don’t want to be a new me. I want to be a better me.
I want to improve the quality of my life and be able to appreciate everyone and everything I have. These are some of the small things I’ve come up with that will promote positivity and happiness in the upcoming new year.
Win Every Day
Having a win every day allows us to prioritize and use time efficiently. A win can be literally anything from doing your laundry to doing your readings. It can be that small goal(s) that you get to check off at the end of the day. Even though laundry as a goal seems silly, it’s the small things that pile up and make us feel disorganized.
Keep Your Day Active
Personally this year I’m going to think about getting active as a healthy lifestyle change, not something I HAVE to do to look a certain way. Every year for me has been the, “get skinny already” goal, but this year, healthy is going to be the new skinny. Your busy day can be active by doing simple things like walking home or taking the stairs. Making these small active choices throughout your day will add up!
If you get bored of the gym easily, like yours truly, mixing in “disguised fitness” activities like hot yoga and kickboxing keep you entertained throughout the week. I mean, who doesn’t love beating people up as a recreational sport whilst improving your cardiovascular health.
I think I get my ab workout of the year from laughing. I am the QUEEN of laughing at my own jokes. I just laughed right now actually. Laughing brightens your mood and attracts positive energy.
Sometimes life can get very stressful and I found that the best way to cope with stressful times is to laugh because five years down the road you’re going to forget why you were even stressed in the first place. If you find yourself worrying and stressing, talk to your funny friend and enjoy the laughter therapy. It will clear your mind and allow you to focus on your task. Take your responsibilities seriously but give yourself a break too.
Ideally I’d love to explore new places and travel the world but one problem… broke student.
I’ve learned that making friends with people of various ethnicities allows you to explore a piece of the world, it opens you up to a whole different range of culture and perspective.
Exploring your own city can be rewarding too! Take a break from school/work and use that 30 minutes you spend scrolling through social media to venture down the streets and take in the atmosphere. I love taking slow walks because (a) I have little legs and (b) I love looking at the places around me. I sometimes purposely get lost just to wander to new areas in the city.
If you’re one of those people that get surprised after seeing a new building just pop up out of no where, just slow down once in a while and take everything in, it will be rewarding for you to be more aware of your surroundings.
It shocks me sometimes when people say they don’t read. You don’t have to read a 900 page novel. If you can read people’s tweets you can definitely read the news. Inform yourself on something new each day. Keep your mind engaged.
I was always one of those people that were skeptical about meditating and would laugh at the thought of me cross-legged on the ground chanting “ommmm”.
With our busy lives we are constantly engaged in everything but ourselves. I’ve learned the importance of internal healing and self-realization through mediation. Lying on your back and just focusing on breathing is the simplest way to meditate. It’s surprisingly hard to just focus on the air escaping your lips and the rise and fall of your chest. Shutting your mind off for at least 10 mins a day provides many mental health benefits.
Surround Yourself With Family And Friends
Family keeps you grounded and friends help you grow. Be thankful for your relationships and all the people in your life, take advantage of their positive effect on you and immerse yourself in the love you are surrounded in.
Wishing you all a very Happy 2016!
This blog post was originally published on TamilCulture.com by Mitherayee Augustine — article link.
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Take the time at the beginning of the year to go through your mailing lists and unsubscribe from all but the essentials, Lisa Gasson of New York suggests. It’s a good way to clear out inbox clutter, and also to reduce shopping temptation from constant emails from merchants. Try using Unroll.me to unsubscribe easily and keep things manageable going forward.
Take some of the time you spend mindlessly poking around on the internet and spend it with an actual book, says Megan Hamilton of Ontario. That’s her resolution for the coming year, and she’s solicited suggestions from friends for recent favourites to add her her library list.
After a couple of tough years for the her own health and that of her family, Carol-Ann Cole of Newfoundland and Labrador decided to cut out the little things she couldn’t control, including those to do with the lives of other people. “I try now to not gossip — well, maybe just a little juicy stuff, ha ha — and just live each day happy and healthy,” Cole says. “So far it’s working and I feel so much happier and contented.”
Dry skin getting you down? That’s worth a small resolution all on its own, especially during Canada’s dry winters. “After making big, thought-out resolutions — and then feeling stress and guilt about not keeping them — about 15 years ago, I resolved to put lotion on everyday after showering,” says Erika Serviss-Low of the Yukon. “Easy to do, no guilt, and — after scratching my skin raw and frantically searching for lotion by mid-day — life changing.”
Jenny Hinko Polischuk of Alberta picks a theme for her family for each year and focuses on that instead of a specific resolution. “Our theme was to ‘CHOOSE HAPPY’!,” she says of their 2015 theme. “I got it printed in vinyl and put it up on a wall in our kitchen. I also found a great print on Etsy and framed it. To kick it off we brainstormed as a family situations where we consciously have to choose happiness. We put that up in our mud room about 3 feet high so my little women could see it.”
Instead of picking a resolution that restricts or removes something, pick something that adds joy to your life. “I do ones that make me feel good, not that are challenges,” Julia Cain of New Jersey says of her resolutions. “‘Say yes to travel,’ for example, which will be a continuing resolution this year, or ‘snuggle with babies as much as possible.’”
If you do want to make a list of things to accomplish this year, break it all into a very specific itemized list—maybe 101 items for the year, or a number that makes sense for you. “those worked really well because they were incremental and accumulative,” says Lisa Schmeiser of California of her itemized lists for the year, “so by the end of the year, I had momentum and completed tasks on my side.”
“One of my students gave me great advice: Make three tiers of resolutions,” says Vanessa Vakharia of Ontario. Make the first tier something easy to immediately implement, like wearing eyeshadow or flossing daily. Get a bit higher-concept for tier two: a promise to run regularly, for example. And then think big for the third, like finishing your degree or planning a major trip. “I think it’s a good way to level goals out so that you can get instant gratification, which motivates you to work towards those higher level goals,” she says.
“I don’t know if they’re resolutions, but every year I go back and assess how I’m doing as far as becoming the person I want to be,” says Carolyne Whelan. Think about how you respond to strangers, your friends and family, how you treat yourself, and the way you move about in the world. “Obviously there is a lot of tweaking, but since it’s all a learning process with a wide curve, every year just presents the opportunity to be closer to the person I want to spend all my time with,” she says.
What’s something you enjoy, that is easy to do and adds a bit of light to your day? Pick something, then do more of it! “A few years ago, my only resolution — after years of the same ‘lose ten pounds, learn Spanish, write a novel’ flailed if not failed — was ‘sing more,’” says Paige Conner Totaro of Virginia. “I did and it felt great. The next year it was ‘dance more.’”
Is there something you need to do, even want to do, that you keep finding a way to get around or avoid or not actually work on? Stop doing that, and just do the work—every day, over and over, says Jennifer Polk of Ontario. You’ll get a lot more done if you put the energy you spend worrying, procrastinating, avoiding, and over-planning into just doing. “Everything’s better when you do the work,” she says.