I call myself Morning Star and I am an Italian girl living in Toronto. I am also the proud mom of a lovely eight year old daughter. I have decided to write this article because I really appreciated the Tamil Culture author who had the courage to tell her story I Am A French Woman In Love With A Tamil Man. Reading her words helped give me strength because I am in a very similar situation. I love a younger Tamil man and he loves me too. We have been dating for 6 years and it has been the best years of my life.
During our courtship., we have experienced so many positive milestones as a couple. We have gone on vacations , movies, dinners and he has met my entire family. I take our relationship very seriously and for this reason, we have chosen to live together. He loves my daughter and is the most amazing role model to her. The only thing that is stopping our relationship from growing and moving on to the next step is my partner’s relationship with his family. There is nothing that I want more in this world than to meet his parents and obtain their blessing so that we can finally settle down with our lives. This has not happened because my love is scared of the judgement from his family. They constantly scream at him to leave me because they are pushing him to find an Indian Tamil girl.
They have even gone as far as to find someone for him. He assures me that he is not happy with their actions but he cannot change his family’s wishes for him. He strongly feels that it would break his parents’ heart if he were to introduce me as his girlfriend. It is very difficult for me to accept these facts because I know with all my heart that I will love him and take care of him better than any woman he could every meet. We discuss this situation all the time and together we are trying to find a solution that will cause the least amount of damage.
Familial obligations are at the heart of our struggle. This does not apply to the rest of his life. I know all of his friends, he knows all of my friends and the rest of our world is able to coexist harmoniously. We are suffering very much for stupid reasons. It is time that people understand that love is love, no matter what you look like or where you come from. Today, we both desire to build a family together without the stress and pressure from his family but because of their disapproval, he can no longer live with me or marry me. People must understand that skin colour cannot be a mental boundary for love. We are in 2017, not in living in the 1800s! Prejudices against interracial relationships have to stop.
Everyone who knows me knows that I am always surrounded by Indian people. My best friends here in Toronto are from a diverse range of Indian backgrounds. I really love their dresses and their food. I would love to learn more about the Tamil Culture, especially how to speak this intricate language. I know that Tamil traditions are very old, revered and difficult to break up because people don’t like change, but I am writing this piece in hopes that the new generation of Tamils can provide me with some advice through this article.
I really think that we are all the same. Racism or prejudice should not exist especially in a modern Country like Canada, which compared to my experience in Europe, has always been the best example of an open-mind Country. I believe that there are many couples in the same situation and I want them to know that I will firmly fight for a future together with my Tamil love. I will not stop until we can freely go out in the daylight and behave as a couple without hiding from anybody else. I personally interact with some mixed couples, so I know the future of our relationship is possible. We are not committing a crime by wanting to be together! We are good people so why would anyone believe that we do not deserve to be happy? As individuals that are proud of their Tamil culture, please help me understand your point of view. Please try to empathize with my situation- Love is love and my love has given me the desire to learn and celebrate your beautiful culture. I am grateful to you for taking the time to read my words. I will consider and appreciate every comment that you choose to contribute to this article.